So you want to pro-create - Are you ready?

The reasons why you young couples wanted to have a baby is probably due to many reasons, namely:-

1) Parental pressure - some of their arguments are like better to have now so that when they are all grown up, you are still young. Another is children are a blessing but more often than not, your parents are selfish. They have brought you up through thick and thin so they are entitled. They just want you to have kids so that they can play with them, spoil them and then hand it back to you. They also your kids to inflict upon you what you did to them. HAHAHAHAHA! What a bunch of jolly old people, our parents.

2) Social pressure - after marriage, that's the next step. What else to do? You come home to each other every night, day in day out. After a while, what do you talk about? So let's have a kid! What a load of bullcrap!! But, hey, if you want to give in, that's your choice. I am not against it, just letting you know what you are getting into.

3) Biological time clock pressure - You are getting older. The older you wait, the more dangerous for the child, for you, for your wallet, etc. There is some truth here but medical science is growing better exponentially. If my mom can give birth to me at a 3rd rate hospital like our KL General Hospital at the age of 37 in 1970, I think you who is in the 21st century and probably will be at a private hospital (even our government hospitals are getting better) will have a much higher chance of success.

4) "Everything will be alright" pressure - Just have a child and all will come naturally. People who fall these are either insane themselves or the children will be beaten up in school or will be in jail later in life. If you are not ready, DON'T!! When I see kids squirming on the floor throwing tantrums because they want to put soya sauce into their parent's drink, I have to exercise extreme urges to go over and give the parents a birth control brochure and a euthanasia how-to kit. It is a HUGE responsibility and you gotta be absolutely sure and ready.

Notice I keep saying when you are ready. There is nothing more important than this. Sure love is crucial but love will not carry you through all the time. In fact, because you love, you will do whatever it takes but there will times when you feel like killing the little demon! The only thing stopping you is an episode of CSI!

When you are ready, you won't blame anyone when things don't quite go the way you want it to. You would read about it, asked for advice, googled it, observe others and you would take the trouble to find out to be prepared. You will be more patient and you don't need CSI to stop you from conveniently dropping a quarts of rat poison into the milk.

Be prepared to sacrifice almost everything you hold dear. Your life is going to turn around completely to a point where you may not recognize it. The trick is to compensate and compromise. Don't change everything for allow these additions to come into your life slowly and only readiness will help you.

So for this Chindian, it was pretty much wine that brought our kids to us but I was ready for them. Hopefully I give them the right ingredients to not end up in jail or worse, the civil service.