The best way is to use a fork lift or a trolley. That way she is comfortable and you don't exert yourself. Hahaha....just dry humour to start the article. Anyway, I get asked a lot on this topic and I am not saying this because people think I am some kind of master at this. Truth is, they think we Chindians know better because we have both culture.
Let me ask you, who are the best pickers? Gorgeous guys or ugly guys? The answer is confident guys. If they are gorgeous, they are not going to work hard to get the girls. They don't need to. If you are ugly and have no confidence, nothing is going to happen for you as well. But if you are confident, there is a chance that something can happen for you. There are more girls than dudes in the world so that odds are stacked in our favour. Even though you may strike out a lot, eventually you will get a hit.
The first thing you gotta to do is to get over some mental blocks that you have built up in that mind of yours. Blocks like "What if she thinks I am ugly?", "What if I can't measure up to her previous dates?", "What if I am not cool?", "What if I don't know where to take her?" and the most common "What is she thinks I am stupid, or weird or laughs at me?".
Well the problem is, she probably will but if you keep at it, you WILL strike gold. Someone will like you. In fact many one will like you. So some tips for you to get the mental blocks away.
Concept 1 : When picking up a girl, you must be detached from the outcome.
If you care about what the girl thinks of you, you are destined to fail. Let’s face it, there are going to be many girls that you are just not compatible with. Many of them just won’t live up to your expectations and you won’t live up to many of theirs. You must get over this and not care if you succeed or get rejected. If you care, then you will do everything you can NOT to screw up, and consequently, this makes you screw up.
Concept 2: When picking up a girl, YOU are choosing her.
When you talk to someone for the first time, you must realize that there’s a reason that you are talking to them. If you’re talking to a woman for the first time, it’s likely that she already knows you’re trying to pick her up. Many guys have tried to pick her up before and many will in the future. This does not mean that she decides if she will accept your approach or not. When you go shopping for a car, you might walk into a dealership, but does that mean that you will purchase the car? No way! The only way you’re going purchase the car is if it’s a good investment and the salesman is competent. The same applies to dating. When you go out and you meet a girl, keep in mind that YOU won’t take her home unless you like her.
Concept 3: Be happy, enjoy what you do and she will too.
Many guys approach this as a horrifying experience when in reality, it should really be a pleasurable one. If your objective is to find out what kind of person this girl is and then make her smile, then you’re likely to have many good and enjoyable interactions. If you try to “win” by picking her up, you’re doomed for failure. Most of the time, the best pick ups are when you aren’t even trying.
Concept 4: No immediate compliments!
What ever you do, do NOT compliment her on her looks. Paying attention to detail is good, but as soon as you mention her physical appearance, things start to turn ugly. If anything, you can mention her clothing, accessories or anything out of the ordinary, but do NOT mention her appearance. Even if she has the most beautiful eyes you’ve ever seen, refrain from mentioning it. You can tell her later… much later.
Concept 5: Building attraction immediately
In order to build attraction, you must be able to convey signs of a good and desirable mate. These will naturally be present in men whom workout often and are already successful with women. However, what if you don’t have time to work out often and you aren’t already successful with women ? There is always your personality. Personally, working out was never my thing and the good thing is it's probably not the girls as well. Exercise to stay healthy and the attraction will come.
Now with all that tips and you still need a boost, I have one more piece of wisdom for you. Take a baby (could be yours or borrow one) and look hopelessly lost at the supermarket. Pick one supermarket where it's in a neighbourhood full of single working people. A girl cannot resist a man lost in the food section with baby. Food, cooking and baby is their world. It's their maternal instinct to not resist a MAN getting lost in their world.
Coz you read my blog, that one was free!
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